sometimes i wonder.. do years really mean anything?

does a person who you have known for 5 years better than a friend you have known for 5 months?

these days, i have seen and heard of people being "betrayed" by their friends, long years of friendships, more than a decade.

disappointments, anger, disgust.. most of all, self-reprimanding..

they felt confused, lost.. why did they once trust those friends so deeply?

why is it that those friends weren't the friends he/she knew a decade ago?


was it his/her fault?


nope. it's not.

this is life.

people change. change is the only constant.

and with the change of environment, people around, it's not that hard to change.


a person's real personality may not surface for the first 20 years of his/her life due to family, school, education..

but once a person goes to work, starts going out, explore, more temptations and 'tests' will show a person's true character, be it good or bad.


as one grows older, he/she will experience more feelings, negative feelings mostly.

jealousy, hatred, dislike etc..

in turn, this may turn a nice and kind person into a jealous and scheming asshole.


can we really blame them for being who and what they are?


maybe to them, we are flawed too cos in their eyes, what they do is right and justifiable.

not everyone views friendship in the same way.


some people view friendships as rare jewels, some treat them as tools, others view them as dispensable objects..


everyone is different.


at least, you get to know that they aren't the type of friends you wanna be with now..

its definitely better than knowing that in like another 20-30 years' time isn't it? =)


or maybe, the end of a friendship will allow the other party to realise your importance?

it may also starts a new life separately, a more fulfiling life that you never had when with the old bunch of friends?


these are all the positive thoughts that one can have when meet with such .. experience..



and always remember, even though the friendship ended, the person might not be who you thought was, this person or this group of people had brought you joy once, and that's all you need to remember..


everyone has a book of memories.. you wouldnt want to fill them up with bad chapters, burnt edges or smudged pages all the time would you? =)


so to my friends who are going through the loss of a long term friendship, don't blame yourself or the other party..

it's life.

without the downs, you won't appreciate the ups.

without this end, you may never get to appreciate the start. =)