❣ who, what, when, where, why ❣

She asked him, "how many have you loved?"

His reply? "5."

She continued, "can you tell me their names?"

He smiled and answered, "They are..Who, What, When, Where and Why."

Judgemental ↭ Stereotyping

I know I have not been blogging for more than a month. I'm sorry, it's been a busy month with a lot of changes, good mostly.

Through these changes, I realised humans tend to have this trait, judgemental. They judge even before they have met the person. They judge based on what they see, for the first few minutes. From there, they conclude a person's character and decide if the person is good or bad. Most of the time, they are wrong but they ain't willing to change their views. They insisted on being right and sometimes, influence the rest to think the same.

People who know me well know I don't judge, especially if I don't know the person well. I don't decide if the person is good or bad, and I don't conclude if what they do is right or wrong for their lives. Who am I to judge? I am not a saint, I have done stupid things, So why should I judge others? First impression count but I don't condemn. Yes, the word is condemn.

So I'm perplexed that there are people who condemn others based on first impressions or hearsay. Worse, they usually do not change their views even if they see the good in others. Can you imagine if such people are your superiors? They condemn you Co's you probably wore their most hated colour to work on your first day or you pronounced their name wrongly or you spoke a little too loud for their liking. How unfair would it be?

Friends love to come to me cos I won't judge. I always tell them, if you don't like others to judge the way you live your life, don't judge others. It's that simple. What seems wrong to you may seem right to others. We are individuals with a mind of our own, we are unique in our own way. Keep an open mind and learn to accept people who ain't the same as you are.

Sounds difficult? Not really. Not if you try hard enough.

Another word for judgemental is stereotyping. Don't mean the same but similar. People think if you have tattoo, you are a bad person. If you talk loudly, you must be a gangster or lowly educated. If you are animated, you must be an aggressive person. All these stereotyping is what cause conflicts, fights and wars. They outcast anyone who ain't the same as the majority. They condemn people who don't think similarly to the rest. This is very... shallow. Will you condemn a family member if he or she isn't the same? How will you feel if you are condemned cos you ain't the same? Isn't it sad? Isn't it unfair?

Don't do things to others that you won't want others to do to you. Be fair, not shallow. Don't judge what you don't know.

Life will be happier.