Been hearing quite a number of couples getting married after being together for 6 months (and knowing each other less than a year).. All these news were sudden too, like 3 months before the wedding? And nope, not shotgun, which will be more understandable. It makes me wonder, did they decided to get hitched coa they are madly in love or is it the in thing now, for people our age?
They don't know each other well, the relationships aren't stable (arguing every 3 days and breakup every week or so), there's no baby on the way. Thus, why the SUDDEN hurry?
I asked around and got collated the following reasons:
1. Managed to get a HDB unit which requires them to get married within the next three to six months (the hurry for flat? Too good to let go)
2. Age is catching up for the female/male, the NEED to get married is getting overwhelming
3. Friends around are getting married and the females felt left out when the other couples who were probably together for much shorter period are getting married
The above are the main reasons and none of it is about love. It makes me sad thinking that people only get married for all reasons except the love for each other. What do the vows mean then? If the marriage isn't due to deep love for each other and the want for being with each other for the rest of their lives? Shouldn't this be the main reason?
It doesn't matter if you need to apply for flat before proposal, nor the planning before everything is confirmed as long as the reason behind all these is the love for each other.
I don't mean that love should be measured by time but the sudden surge of getting married within 6 months or a year of knowing each other (yes, knowing each other from strangers to friends to lovers) is too far stretched. How can you love someone when the rs is full of problems? 因不瞭解而在一起，因瞭解而分開嗎？
I wouldn't want to do so. Marriage is for life, it should be taken seriously. Don't get married due to impulse, it's unfair to the other party and yourself. Don't hurt another person for your mistake.
For those who find this similar, think it over carefully. Are you willing to see the person for the next 50years? Can you stand the bad habits he/she has for the next 50years? If you can't, then don't go to the next step.
Be responsible my friends. Think.
A promise, and so, I was back at my regular hangout. Of cos, I was there very late; after my work. Put on make up, contact lens & off I went at 11pm.
Reached there and being the usual anti-social as some may claim, I was sitting at the counter instead of joining them at the table (alright, it was because I wanna have my chance to sing).
Saw a few people whom I had never seen in years (3? 4?) and chatted a bit. Nothing much, just the usual 'how at you', 'why didn't you sit with us' conversation. Lazy to explain and this I say, "I'm anti-social. :)"
Organizer left awhile after and the rest followed. Weird I would say. Why is there a need to leave after the organizer has left? Is the organizer the only link for the rest of the people who appeared? *shrugs*
Anyway, it was a fun night; with my few favourite girls over there making fun of each other, doing up different hairstyles and appearance of a singer. Yup, a singer, someone who has his album sold and have fans, not to mention, a good voice. After listening to him, one would know what it means by professional. :)
Seldom hangout there due to my work, but to date, it remains my best place to relax.
See you soon, my fav hangout! :)
Reached there and being the usual anti-social as some may claim, I was sitting at the counter instead of joining them at the table (alright, it was because I wanna have my chance to sing).
Saw a few people whom I had never seen in years (3? 4?) and chatted a bit. Nothing much, just the usual 'how at you', 'why didn't you sit with us' conversation. Lazy to explain and this I say, "I'm anti-social. :)"
Organizer left awhile after and the rest followed. Weird I would say. Why is there a need to leave after the organizer has left? Is the organizer the only link for the rest of the people who appeared? *shrugs*
Anyway, it was a fun night; with my few favourite girls over there making fun of each other, doing up different hairstyles and appearance of a singer. Yup, a singer, someone who has his album sold and have fans, not to mention, a good voice. After listening to him, one would know what it means by professional. :)
Seldom hangout there due to my work, but to date, it remains my best place to relax.
See you soon, my fav hangout! :)
Someone recommended this movie to me: Silenced/The Crucible/도가니. It is a Korean Movie which describes about multiple sexual and violence abuse of deaf students by the teachers. This is based on a true event that happened in one of the deaf schools in Korea back in the early 2000s.
I was warned to get ready tissue papers, but I did not expect the darkness and the heaviness of movie; I watched it before I zzz. This movie isn't for everyone. People who have been reading my blog probably knows that I worked as a sign language interpreter few years back and how close I am with the Deaf. This movie reminded me of the advantages that people took from the handicapped and how cruel and indifferent humans can be.
In the real events, the culprits were not punished, they were let off easily due to corruption from the police to the judges. Sounds ridiculous? It does, but it is very real.
We live in a (almost) corruption-free country and therefore, more protected against the dark side of humans. If such thing happened in Singapore, would it have gone unnoticed? Would the culprits be let of so easily with only probation? Probably not. We are very lucky to be born here, where a lot of things are well done and we are well protected.
It's good to know more about other countries; the happenings and the dark side of humans. This allow us to reflect and appreciate our government and the life we have. We are luckier than many others.
Watch this movie. It has affected the government in Korea and the case was reopened after 6 years. Though in the end, only two culprits were convicted, it's better than nothing. It awakened their citizens and made them reflect on the laws that put the handicapped at disadvantage.
In the movie, one of the deaf children mentioned that through this ordeal, it made them realise that they are no different from others; they have rights too.
Being handicapped do not demean their human rights. It definitely does not mean one can bully them and go scot-free.
By the way, a novel was out before this movie describing more detailed about the event. If you find this movie disturbing, you probably should not read the novel; the movie only described less than 1/3 of what the novel has written.
I would not recommend this movie to everyone but if you wish to watch; don't watch before bedtime cos it will set you thinking.
I was warned to get ready tissue papers, but I did not expect the darkness and the heaviness of movie; I watched it before I zzz. This movie isn't for everyone. People who have been reading my blog probably knows that I worked as a sign language interpreter few years back and how close I am with the Deaf. This movie reminded me of the advantages that people took from the handicapped and how cruel and indifferent humans can be.
In the real events, the culprits were not punished, they were let off easily due to corruption from the police to the judges. Sounds ridiculous? It does, but it is very real.
We live in a (almost) corruption-free country and therefore, more protected against the dark side of humans. If such thing happened in Singapore, would it have gone unnoticed? Would the culprits be let of so easily with only probation? Probably not. We are very lucky to be born here, where a lot of things are well done and we are well protected.
It's good to know more about other countries; the happenings and the dark side of humans. This allow us to reflect and appreciate our government and the life we have. We are luckier than many others.
Watch this movie. It has affected the government in Korea and the case was reopened after 6 years. Though in the end, only two culprits were convicted, it's better than nothing. It awakened their citizens and made them reflect on the laws that put the handicapped at disadvantage.
In the movie, one of the deaf children mentioned that through this ordeal, it made them realise that they are no different from others; they have rights too.
Being handicapped do not demean their human rights. It definitely does not mean one can bully them and go scot-free.
By the way, a novel was out before this movie describing more detailed about the event. If you find this movie disturbing, you probably should not read the novel; the movie only described less than 1/3 of what the novel has written.
I would not recommend this movie to everyone but if you wish to watch; don't watch before bedtime cos it will set you thinking.
Well, looked at my blog and realised I have not been blogging for more than a year (not this blog anyway). I used to have thoughts that I wanted to pen them down, however, it was usually in the wee hours when I was lying on my bed, having difficulties sleeping. It was a chore to get out of bed, on my computer, log in and type (okay, I was am lazy). Now that Blogger has come out with Iphone app, it is a breeze to keep my thoughts in my "online memory".
I probably would not be able to blog as much as before, but I will try. Still trying to figure out how the app works; heard reviews of people having difficulties loading their pictures in the correct section of their entries. Well, at least I am able to blog whenever I wish to! :)
Would not want to bog down this entry with paragraphs of my life in the past one year or so; just some bullet points for major changes:
I probably would not be able to blog as much as before, but I will try. Still trying to figure out how the app works; heard reviews of people having difficulties loading their pictures in the correct section of their entries. Well, at least I am able to blog whenever I wish to! :)
Would not want to bog down this entry with paragraphs of my life in the past one year or so; just some bullet points for major changes:
- changed a job; got promoted
- workaholic
- travel more (not work!)
- peaceful with not-so-dramatic friends
- happy with my personal life
Overall, I think life is better. :)
Travelled to a no. of places in the past year and a half, a kind of stress release for me. :) Some photos:
And oh! My sis got married last month (today is 1 July 2012)! It was a mixture of happiness and sadness. Happy because my sis has finally found the one and sad is because she is my little sis and she is married before I do! :(
I remember how I used to tell my friends that I wanted to get married by the age of 26 and have kids by the age of 28. Now, I am 29 years old and I do not wish to get married yet. I do not feel old (okay, sometimes I do when I meet new friends who tell me they are 22 years old and feel old *rolleyes*), and I feel that I have a lot more to achieve in life. Funny how your mindset changes as you age. :)
People around me are still finding their paths in life; some got attached after being lost for so long, some are back to single after realising marriage are not for them (yet), some are already having family planning. Perhaps there isn't any majority of my friends getting married, thus, there is no pressure on me (except from my mum of cos).
My work now leaves me little time for other things. I am always working and OT-ing and well, going overseas, I do not think I have time to plan for family. Of cos, I do wish to get married and have kids in the future, but perhaps not yet. :)
Then again, life is unpredictable, who knows, I may get married next year! In any case, I believe what will come, will come. As a friend's favourite quote, "Qui Sera Sera". :)
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