alot of people get into a r/s without knowing what does being in a r/s means..

they always think being in a r/s means being loved, pampered, having a company, a soulmate (perhaps)..

those are what you get out from being in a r/s.. but what are you getting into?

being in a r/s isn't as simple as everyone thought..

a company, someone to love you, pamper you etc..

its not just that..

everything has pros and cons and being in a r/s isn't an exception..

being in a r/s means..

• sharing your ups and downs..
• learning to respect each other..
• living as 2 souls as 1..
• having another person to think about when making any decision..
• 2 lives as 1..
• being transparent..
• baring your soul to another party..
• believing in the other party to be there for you always..
• learning to put down your pride and ego..
• being equal..
• learning to accept help when its given..
• learning to trust..
• rely on each other..
• letting the other party into your most inner world..
• showing your most vulnerable side and believing that the other party will protect you..

and above are just some examples i can think of when being in a rs..

there are alot of people who got into a rs without realising what it really means.. they do not know how to live with another person..

they do not know how to rely on the other person.. do not know how to bare their souls out..

they do not know how to share their ups and downs..

and most importantly, they do not realise that there are 2 persons being tangled together, and any decisions, actions, words will affect the other person's life..

they still live as if they are single..

they still keep things to themselves.. they still have pride and ego in front of the other party, without realising that being in a r/s means both are equal in each other's eyes..

there's no such thing as i am more superior.. or rather, i am stronger, or i am a guy/girl, thus, i cant blah blah blah..

no.. its not the case..

of cos, i am talking about a committed r/s, not casual, fling or whatever names you call it..

i am talking about a r/s that will progress to marriage, spending the rest of your lives together..


i have seen so many couples breaking up in the end, being hurt in the end, cos the other party do not understand the meaning of being in a r/s..

they do not give their all in the r/s, they do not let the other party into their inner world, leaving them as an outsiders, sometimes, more distant than friends..

i believe you have seen couples who do not feel like a couple at all.. they seem awkward together.. even though they laugh and joke together..

to be in a r/s, one has to understand that its not longer a person's world, but 2 persons in 1 world..

2 as 1..

thats the main condition for being in a r/s..

not 2 as 2, but 2 as 1.

only when one understands this, can a r/s work..

if not, at the end of the day, there's no r/s at all..

only 2 persons living under one roof..

with 2 hearts living as 2.. not 1..