guys and girls can never co-exist..

its a fact..

cos whenever something goes wrong, its always the girl's fault.. ALWAYS.. its NEVER the guy's fault..

its always either the girl is:

• too sensitive
• unreasonable
• arguementative
• stubborn
• plain stupid

they always use the same reason when things go wrong:

1. this is who I am..
2. don't try to CHANGE me..
3. don't expect everyone to think the SAME way as YOU do..
4. why cant you see from MY point of view..

let's analyse each reason..

1) this is who I am
when he says that, its telling you to change for him instead.. cos this is who he is and thus, if you wanna be with him, you gotta accept the way he is.. and by doing so, you are changing yourself to suit the way he is..

2) don't try to CHANGE me
same tactic as above.. cos when they say that, he is telling you that he will never change himself to make the relatioship better.. he will NEVER compromise.. so who is to compromise? YOU.

3) don't expect everyone to think the SAME way as YOU do..
when he says that, he is saying he doesnt have the same frequency as you do, and thus, he is excused from all mistakes cos he dont think the SAME way as YOU do! so if you feel this way and therefore, hurt by his actions or words or indifference isnt HIS fault, cos he DOESNT think the SAME way as YOU do!

4) why can't you see from MY point of view
this simply means you HAVE to understand how he feels but not the other way round.. when he say that, its already saying that he doesnt see your point of view and is EXPECTING you to see HIS point of view instead.


after analysing all the above, it only comes to one conclusion: you are to change for him, not the other way round. there's no gender equality here.

he will always think that he has done his best and you are the one who isnt appreciative.. you are not understanding him, you are trying to change him, you never accept the way he is etc..

but.. he never stop and think, putting himself in your shoes, why you feel the way you did..

its always him, him, him and him..

if you open your mouth and tell your feelings, you are being argumentative.. you are picking a fight, you are unreasonable, you are not appreciative..

if you keep quiet, you are pushing him away, you do not trust him, you do not want to make the relationship better..

if you walk away, you are at fault cos you are being UNREASONABLE.. but if he were to walk away, he is not at fault cos he doesnt know how to HANDLE YOU..

when i first heard this reason, i felt disgusted.. its so obvious that there's gender bias here.

how can the same action done by different gender have 2 different judgements?

guys always say girls are cruel, especially in their words.. but they never think of their own actions..

i believe they have never heard of this phrase: actions speak louder than words.

its always the actions that hurt the girls which the guys never see..

the guys only hear the words being exchanged, but never look in the mirror and reflect on their own actions, their own words.. how their actions (including being indifferent) hurt the other party..

and the hurt done is so deep that no words can be used to describe that pain..

pain till it becomes numb..

till the girl stop feeling it and stop having reaction to it..

when that happens, the relationship is dying..

the guys never stand it when their girls talk and talk and talk about all the little things that hurt them in the relationship..

but they never realise that the reason they say it out, is cos they care about the relationship and hope that something could be done..

when they stop saying, they stop caring..

and that's the beginning of the end.

by then, it will be too late.

girls always give chances during the relationship which the guys always take for granted or sometimes, never realise they are chances.

they only start to realise when their girls stop giving chance and leave for good.

its no wonder more n more girls turn lesbian, cos girls know girls best..

of cos, there are good guys around.. but they are either married, attached, gay or jus do not have feelings for you.. *shrugs*

there's a reason why girls tend to look for uglier guys.. cos they know its their luck to be able to be with you and thus, will treasure you..

those who are a bit attractive will not.. cos they always think they can get a better one..

they fail to see what you had done for them till you are gone and no one else will ever treat them the way you did..

a friend asked, "is it better to be ugly and fat and never be loved or be pretty and slim but with your heart broken all the time?"

seriously, i have no idea. maybe its better not to be loved cos at least you wont have your hopes dashed again and again..

maybe.



P.S: its my dearest friend, tom's birthday today. couldnt make it for his celebration as i was sick. but still, shall wish him a very happy 24th birthday this year! =)