how much does one know about oneself?
especially when it involves the matters of heart?
so many times, pple can't make up their mind on what they want, yet they do not want to lose what they have, in turn, they make the other party wait for them.
till?
they finally know what they want.
but usually, grass is greener on the other side.
so?
you won't know.
things like "i am not ready for commitment, but we can stay as friends for now" or "can you give me more time to think?" come out.
its a selfish nature, nothing wrong with it since humans are selfish by nature.
its one of the tributes to being a human, a normal one.
afraid of making the wrong choice, one will choose the easiest way out - do not choose at all.
let the other party make the choice for you.
if he/she can wait, wait. if can't, leave.
either way, u will have your choice made out for you in time to come.
at the same time, u do not need to take on the role of Heartbreaker.
selfish, cowardly but human and clever nonetheless.
humans, in nature, are weak.
they do not have the courage to change things.
they do not have the courage to try again once they are bitten.
if one person is to break their heart once, they wouldnt have the courage to give this person another chance even if their hearts still yearn for this person.
they do not dare to take it, at the same time, they do not have the courage to throw it away.
so..
they leave it there, waiting for heart (that once broke them) to disappear or stay. to let time make the choice for them (or sometimes, for some people, wait for another person who can give them the courage to choose).
to prove if its real, its true or is it there to break their hearts again.
who can blame them?
its only human nature to fear what had hurt you.
the Heartbreaker does not have the rights that the Heartbroken have.
who is the Heartbreaker and who is the Heartbroken?
does the one who pull the trigger automatically take on the role of Heartbreaker while the one who get shot is the Heartbroken?
how clear is the line?
how true is that?
i don't know. no one knows till one has broken a heart he/she din mean to or had no choice to.
its human nature to protect oneself.
some choose to let time soften the impact of the breaking.
some choose not to drag and end it there and then.
which is better?
i guess my take is to end it there and then. dragging only breaks a person into more pieces.
to let the person be prepared for it doesnt make it any better.
the person still cry, still hurt as much .. when things changed.
he/she doesnt cry when the BIG thing came, the final news came isn't cos it doesnt hurt anymore, but cos he/she had cried enough when he/she felt the change, got the hint.
dragging only make the Heartbreaker feel better, not the Heartbroken.
the Heartbroken still cry as much, still hurt as badly, but at a different time as the Heartbreaker.
the only difference is Heartbreaker will not feel as guilty as originally should.
the Heartbroken always see things in a clearer view than the Heartbreaker.
in the end, its the Heartbreaker who hurts more as he/she will realise and be enlightened by the Heartbroken the real reason behind the ending of things.
the reason that he/she originally thought is usually his/her own preferred reason. its not the real reason.
sometimes, when things are lost, they can never be found.
no matter how hard you try, regrets are regrets.
next time, when you see a couple sitting at a table and one is crying, one isnt.
don assume there and then that the one crying is the Heartbroken and the one isnt is the Heartbreaker cos you wil never know who is the one hurting more.
you will never know cos you will never be them.
especially when it involves the matters of heart?
so many times, pple can't make up their mind on what they want, yet they do not want to lose what they have, in turn, they make the other party wait for them.
till?
they finally know what they want.
but usually, grass is greener on the other side.
so?
you won't know.
things like "i am not ready for commitment, but we can stay as friends for now" or "can you give me more time to think?" come out.
its a selfish nature, nothing wrong with it since humans are selfish by nature.
its one of the tributes to being a human, a normal one.
afraid of making the wrong choice, one will choose the easiest way out - do not choose at all.
let the other party make the choice for you.
if he/she can wait, wait. if can't, leave.
either way, u will have your choice made out for you in time to come.
at the same time, u do not need to take on the role of Heartbreaker.
selfish, cowardly but human and clever nonetheless.
humans, in nature, are weak.
they do not have the courage to change things.
they do not have the courage to try again once they are bitten.
if one person is to break their heart once, they wouldnt have the courage to give this person another chance even if their hearts still yearn for this person.
they do not dare to take it, at the same time, they do not have the courage to throw it away.
so..
they leave it there, waiting for heart (that once broke them) to disappear or stay. to let time make the choice for them (or sometimes, for some people, wait for another person who can give them the courage to choose).
to prove if its real, its true or is it there to break their hearts again.
who can blame them?
its only human nature to fear what had hurt you.
the Heartbreaker does not have the rights that the Heartbroken have.
who is the Heartbreaker and who is the Heartbroken?
does the one who pull the trigger automatically take on the role of Heartbreaker while the one who get shot is the Heartbroken?
how clear is the line?
you ended it, you made the choice, you are the Heartbreaker.
so you cant cry, you cant be miserable, you cant be hurting like I do.
how true is that?
i don't know. no one knows till one has broken a heart he/she din mean to or had no choice to.
its human nature to protect oneself.
some choose to let time soften the impact of the breaking.
some choose not to drag and end it there and then.
which is better?
i guess my take is to end it there and then. dragging only breaks a person into more pieces.
to let the person be prepared for it doesnt make it any better.
the person still cry, still hurt as much .. when things changed.
he/she doesnt cry when the BIG thing came, the final news came isn't cos it doesnt hurt anymore, but cos he/she had cried enough when he/she felt the change, got the hint.
dragging only make the Heartbreaker feel better, not the Heartbroken.
the Heartbroken still cry as much, still hurt as badly, but at a different time as the Heartbreaker.
the only difference is Heartbreaker will not feel as guilty as originally should.
"All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you."
- Wayne Dyer
the Heartbroken always see things in a clearer view than the Heartbreaker.
in the end, its the Heartbreaker who hurts more as he/she will realise and be enlightened by the Heartbroken the real reason behind the ending of things.
the reason that he/she originally thought is usually his/her own preferred reason. its not the real reason.
sometimes, when things are lost, they can never be found.
no matter how hard you try, regrets are regrets.
next time, when you see a couple sitting at a table and one is crying, one isnt.
don assume there and then that the one crying is the Heartbroken and the one isnt is the Heartbreaker cos you wil never know who is the one hurting more.
you will never know cos you will never be them.
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