i really love the song playing in my blog.. 情歌 by Fish Leong.. which means love song..

the tune and melody makes you sad.. but not heartbroken sadness..

it's more of a pity sadness.. that a relationship ended (for whatever reason)..

that a relationship had ended but you will always remember the fond memories between you and him/her..

sometimes.. a relationship ends not cos there's no more love.. but cos, love is the only thing that's left in the relationship..

and as cliché as it may sound, sometimes love just ain't enough.. it's true and you can't deny it (for those who had been through heartbreaks for all reasons but no love..


it's sad.. cos there's nothing you can do.. there's nothing love can do to salvage the relationship..

sad cos you were so happy then.. both of you..

but things change.. everything change except the love.. and love itself can't sustain the relationship..

and when i say everything, it's really everything.. like trust, security, everything..

it comes to a point where love for each other brings nothing but sadness, unhappiness, hurt..

and the only way to make each other happy is to leave..

a painful but only viable solution (in most cases)..



i believe most who read my blog understand this..

(cos well, young people will find my blog boring.. lol)

the kind of beyond-your-control feeling..

the kind of struggle..

you don't wish to end, but there's nothing much you can do..

cos you don't wish to make each other suffer anymore..



its sad.. and whenever you look back at those memories, this sadness will follow..

a beautiful start without a beautiful end..


guess that's part of life..

there can't be gardens with beautiful flowers and butterflies..

even the day has to give way to night and spring to winter..

so is happiness to sadness..


but such sadness will come with a smile while tears flow down..

contradicting emotions.. just like most big decisions in our lives.. *smiles*



found the English and Hanyu Pinyin translation for this song.. change a bit of the English translation though (cos it sounds weird)..

Credits to:　xoxoxobexoxoxo from



Artist: 梁靜茹 Liang Jing Ru
Fish Leong

Song: 情歌 Qing Ge
Love Song



時光是琥珀
shi guang shi hu po
Time is drops of tears

淚一滴滴
lei yi di di
being locked

被反鎖
bei fan suo
in an amber.

情書再不朽
qing shu zai bu xiu
No matter how immortal the love letters are,

也磨成沙漏
ye mo cheng sha luo
it'll still grinded into sand, leaking away.

青春的上游
qing chun de shang you
On the top of youthfulness,

白雲飛走
bai yun fei zou
white clouds are flying pass

蒼狗與海鷗
cang gou yu hai ou
turning into dogs and seagulls.

閃過的念頭
shan guo de nian tou
These flashy thoughts

潺潺的溜走
chan chan de liu zou
are slipping away.

命運好幽默
ming yun hao you mo
Fate is very humorous,

讓愛的人都沉默
rang ai de ren dou chen mo
It makes people in love silent

一整個宇宙
yi zheng ge yu zhou
(and) willing to trade in the universe

換一顆紅豆
huan yi ke hong dou
for a red bean.

回憶如困獸
hui yi ru kun shou
Memories is like a monster

寂寞太久
ji mo tai jiu
that'll eventually became gentle

而漸漸溫柔
er jian jian wen rou
from being lonely for a long time.

放開了拳頭
fang kai le quan tou
Letting go of (it's) fist,

反而更自由
fan er geng zi you
(it feels) much freer.

慢動作
man dong zuo
In slow motion

繾綣膠捲
qian juan jiao juan
attracting,

重播默片
chong bo mo pian
(and) replaying the silent film,

定格一瞬間
ding ge yi shun jian
(I've) stopped for a moment.

我們在告別的演唱會
wo men zai gao bie de yan chang hui
In our farewell concert,

說好不再見
shuo hao bu zai jian
(we've) promised not to meet again.

你寫給我
ni xie gei wo
You wrote me

我的第一首歌
wo de di yi shou ge
my first song.

你和我十指緊扣
ni he wo shi zhi jin kou
You and I were hand in hand
默寫前奏 mo xie qian zou
(and) writing the prelude from (our) memory.

可是那然後呢
ke shi na ran hou ne
But what then?

還好我有
hai hao wo you
At least I still have

我這一首情歌
wo zhe yi shou qing ge
this love song.

輕輕的 輕輕哼著
qing qing de qing qing heng zhe
Lightly humming,
哭著笑著 我的
ku zhe xiao zhe wo de
crying and smiling at my

天長地久
tian chang di jiu
eternity.

命運好幽默
ming yun hao you mo
Fate is very humorous,

讓愛的人都沉默
rang ai de ren dou chen mo
It makes people in love silent

一整個宇宙
yi zheng ge yu zhou
(and) willing to trade in the universe

換一顆紅豆
huan yi ke hong dou
for a red bean.

回憶如困獸
hui yi ru kun shou
Memories is like a monster

寂寞太久
ji mo tai jiu
that'll eventually became gentle

而漸漸溫柔
er jian jian wen rou
from being lonely for a long time.

放開了拳頭
fang kai le quan tou
Letting go of (it's) fist,

反而更自由
fan er geng zi you
(it feels) much freer.

長鏡頭
chang jin tou
The long camera shot

越拉越遠
yue la yue yuan
is pulling further and further,

越來越遠
yue lai yue yuan
further and further.

事隔好幾年
shi ge hao ji nian
After a couple years from this,

我們在
wo men zai
we are at

懷念的演唱會
huai nian de yan chang hui
(our) memorable concert

禮貌的吻別
li mao de wen bie
politely kissing good bye.

你寫給我
ni xie gei wo
You wrote me

我的第一首歌
wo de di yi shou ge
my first song.

你和我十指緊扣
ni he wo shi zhi jin kou
You and I were hand in hand

默寫前奏
mo xie qian zou
(and) writing the prelude from (our) memory.

可是那然後呢
ke shi na ran hou ne
But what then?

還好我有
hai hao wo you
At least I still have

我這一首情歌
wo zhe yi shou qing ge
this love song

輕輕的 輕輕哼著
qing qing de qing qing heng zhe
Lightly humming,

哭著笑著 我的
ku zhe xiao zhe wo de
crying and smiling at my

天長地久
tian chang di jiu
eternity.

陪我唱歌
pei wo chang ge
Sing with me

清唱你的情歌
qing chang ni de qing ge
Sing acapella to your love song

捨不得 短短副歌
she bu de duan duan fu ge
(I) don't want the short chorus to end.

心還熱著
xin hai re zhe
My heart is still hot,

也該告一段落
ye gai gao yi duan luo
but it should come to an end.

還好我有
hai hao wo you
At least I still have

我下一首情歌
wo xia yi shou qing ge
my next love song.

生命宛如 靜靜的
sheng ming wan ru jing jing de
Life is like a calm river

相擁的河 永遠
xiang yong de he yong yuan
embracing each other for

天長地久
tian chang di jiu
eternity.

went to work at a familiar area.. and i told my colleague that i dislike that area.. cos people who had hurt me live there.. not only one, but several..

and she said, next time, when i make friends or get husband, make sure they don live in that area..

cos it apparently is a cursed place ffor me..

haha..

nice theory..

that area was when i first had my heart taken away.. got my heart broken, trust betrayed.. most of my first were there..

i rem when i cried very badly when i was told that my love (then) was moving to that area..

crying hysterically, confirmed that our relationship would be affected once he moved there.. he would break my heart..

and i rem he looking at me, assuring me it's just a place.. and things would not change..

sweet him, as always..

i guessed he must be thinking i was a silly girl then, crying so badly over an area..

haha..

but we split up less than a year after he moved..

*shrugs*



its funny how some things affect you in a way where there's no explanation and no one could understand..

like my gf, she doesnt take beef, not cos of religion but rather cos she is very sure that eating beef gives her bad luck..

and it had proven right every time..

is it in the mind or ?

i dono cos i myself have weird belief too (as mentioned above)..



of cos, rational thinking would tell you it's all coincidence..

but there's so many things on earth that have no explanation..

how can one be sure that it's just coincidence?


i dono, i'd rather not take the risk..

how about you?

through out the years of your life, which is the most fond memory?

attended a 2-day course on Enhancing Intellectual, Emotional & Social Wellness for Successful Life & Work @ Civil Service College by Richard Lim, a psychotherapist..

It was intersting and very relevant.. I learnt that guys aren't that emotional due to the emotional part of the brain (center part) aren't activated.. and therefore, they are usually incapable to reading emotions on other people.. so it aint that they are insensitive but rather, their brain couldnt read the emotions written on the face..

of cos, this is a generalisation.. since over the centuries, there had been countless evolutions and nowadays, there are alot of SNAGs..

anyway.. another thing i learnt was this: Six Key Principles of Emotional Wellness

Principle 1: Emotional is Information

Principle 2: Ignoring Emotions doesn't work

Suppressing emotions may end up making us less capable of remembering information.

It seems that emotional suppression takes energy and attention that otherwise could be used in listening to and processing information.

Principle 3: Hiding emotions is seldom successful

Surface acting and emotional labour have been linked to performance burnout and job turnover.

For instance, expression of joy is often deemed not professional in organisations and this can actually hinder encouragement to reproduce success.

Principle 4: Decisions must incorporate emotion to be effective

No decisions are made without emotion.

Rational thinking cannot occur in the absence of emotion.

Principle 5: Emotions follow logical patterns

Emotions emerge for many reasons and each emotion is part of a sequence from low to high intensity.

Principle 6: Emotional universals exist, but so do specifics

The specifics are:

• Emotional Display Rules
• Secondary Emotions
• Gender & Emotions

and how emotions influence our thinking:



it's really informative.. and i love this quote mentioned:

Our life is what our thoughts make it.


we have to take control of our thoughts and not the other way round cos if our thoughts control us, we may be swarmed by negative and distorted thoughts and it can cause alot of suffering in our lives.

we gotta learn to be positive..

learn that it's not the situations that made us negative.. its our reactions to the situtations..

one situation but different solutions, depending on our reactions and beliefs..

we can't control situations, but we can control our reactions.

there have been numerous research over the years proving that people with a positive mind recover faster from illness..

and we humans aren't meant to be alone.. we are wired for relationships..

positive relationships will enhance our wellbeing and health (physical and mental)..

most importantly, we need to accept that everyone is different..

so keep an open mind, and life will be better in the long run.. =)

someone told me i am an emo person when we were chatting regarding my fb comments.. and i said, "no, my quotes are random.." and he replied, "not from your fb, but from your blog.."

i retailated saying my posts were random too.. but his reply was, "but you blogged about it cos you thought about it.."

hmmmm.. interesting theory.. yes, my entries were due to me thinking of the topic and wrote them down.. my thoughts, my views about certain stuff that had happened to me or my friends or just random news..

by thinking of certain matters, does it make a person an emo person?

i admit, i used to be an emo person.. didn't help when i was young and i had quite a lot of friends with the same dramatic genes in them.. lol..

well, i believe 90% of the population were in that catergory once (emo).. but to what extent? suicide? drink drank drunk every other night? dramatic status on fb/twitter? gothic makeup? tearing every minute?

a bit of emo-ness is good (imo).. one can't be positive and laughing all the time.. whether you choose to reveal that side of yours to your friends, everyone or just your little puppy, it's good to show.. to let that part of emotions out..

think and be negative.. just for a little while.. dramatic.. for tiny winy bit.. doesn't hurt.. afterall, life is so boring.. without such ups and downs, what will life be? monotonous living like zombie?

of cos, i am not saying to be emo and dramatic ALL the time.. it pisses people off and its such a turn off to be forever emo-ing and dramatic.. like watching Korean soap opera.. =.=

i think alot.. i really do.. when i have some quiet time.. i will think of things.. of life in general.. love.. friends.. family.. goal in life.. work.. etc..

thinking makes me achieve different perspectives of matters and thus, able to 'see' more.. of cos, i won't think and start being emo and cry and all that stunts..

i have passed that stage..

though i do miss that stage, no cos i love being emo, but i love being young.. where you do things without thinking much of the consequences.. with a care in the world.. smiling and crying at the same time.. doing stupid stuff with your friends.. =)

don't you miss that?

we have grown older and wiser but with that, we lost our innocence and naive-ness..