❣ who, what, when, where, why ❣

She asked him, "how many have you loved?"

His reply? "5."

She continued, "can you tell me their names?"

He smiled and answered, "They are..Who, What, When, Where and Why."

Judgemental ↭ Stereotyping

I know I have not been blogging for more than a month. I'm sorry, it's been a busy month with a lot of changes, good mostly.

Through these changes, I realised humans tend to have this trait, judgemental. They judge even before they have met the person. They judge based on what they see, for the first few minutes. From there, they conclude a person's character and decide if the person is good or bad. Most of the time, they are wrong but they ain't willing to change their views. They insisted on being right and sometimes, influence the rest to think the same.

People who know me well know I don't judge, especially if I don't know the person well. I don't decide if the person is good or bad, and I don't conclude if what they do is right or wrong for their lives. Who am I to judge? I am not a saint, I have done stupid things, So why should I judge others? First impression count but I don't condemn. Yes, the word is condemn.

So I'm perplexed that there are people who condemn others based on first impressions or hearsay. Worse, they usually do not change their views even if they see the good in others. Can you imagine if such people are your superiors? They condemn you Co's you probably wore their most hated colour to work on your first day or you pronounced their name wrongly or you spoke a little too loud for their liking. How unfair would it be?

Friends love to come to me cos I won't judge. I always tell them, if you don't like others to judge the way you live your life, don't judge others. It's that simple. What seems wrong to you may seem right to others. We are individuals with a mind of our own, we are unique in our own way. Keep an open mind and learn to accept people who ain't the same as you are.

Sounds difficult? Not really. Not if you try hard enough.

Another word for judgemental is stereotyping. Don't mean the same but similar. People think if you have tattoo, you are a bad person. If you talk loudly, you must be a gangster or lowly educated. If you are animated, you must be an aggressive person. All these stereotyping is what cause conflicts, fights and wars. They outcast anyone who ain't the same as the majority. They condemn people who don't think similarly to the rest. This is very... shallow. Will you condemn a family member if he or she isn't the same? How will you feel if you are condemned cos you ain't the same? Isn't it sad? Isn't it unfair?

Don't do things to others that you won't want others to do to you. Be fair, not shallow. Don't judge what you don't know.

Life will be happier.

Dreams ✗ Expectations

A friend of mine has decided to venture out and start afresh in another country. It was not an easy decision; she did not have support from most people, especially her family. However, she held on to her decision and is flying off soon. Comments received include:

⇝ Immature
⇝ Unfilial
⇝ Friends who support her must be fake friends, those who object really care for her
⇝ Selfish

I can understand the above comments such as immature and selfish, but unfilial and fake friends? Whoever commented this was not using the brain. Why do I say so?

For the former, she is not the only child and her parents are healthy (not like diagnosed with terminal illness or something) and staying with other sibling(s) (with family). She is not in her teens and she has definitely thought it through before coming to such an important decision. Who says people who are living overseas must be unfilial? Does giving monthly expenses and staying together means filial? Shouldn’t filial piety come from the heart and not the superficial actions shown? Does making herself unhappy and do what the family wants mean filial? Does coming back to a house where she is being ignored and look down on daily mean filial? Does doing laundry and washing the plates mean filial?

Come on, they are not. Yes, there are arguments in the family, they have been upset over matters, but family should always stand together, as the saying goes, blood is thicker than water. I have seen my friend crying over mean words coming out from her family, suppressing her unhappiness and forcing herself to be what she is not and with people she does not like for her family, and more. All these were not appreciated by her family cos her family only sees the lousy side of her. I may sound biased but I have seen the weakest side of her and I have also witnessed how the family treated her. I have arguments with my family too, very badly, but we always stand together and we communicate. My family may not like certain decisions but they will always stand by me. This is what family is for. Family does not condemn each other. When they support, they support wholeheartedly. They see each other's point of view, they do not force each other to be what they expect. There is no expectations to meet, esp in love, only unconditional love and support. 

Now, those who support her must be fake friends. I totally cannot accept this. Real friends will give you advice, but the choice is yours to make and real friends will always support you for whatever decision you make (of cos, unless you say you want to take drugs, commit suicide, do things that are illegal and will harm yourself). Real friends do not object and condemn your decisions. People who really care for you will always stand by you, no matter what you do.

Yes, it is definitely a big risk to make such a decision, especially going to a country where you do not know their native language, a place where you stand out awkwardly and a risk of ending up with nothing. However, she is old enough (no longer teens or young adult) to choose her own path and she is aware of the risks and the consequences should her plan fail. Since she has thought it through and decided, what’s the point of stopping her? Yes, maybe she has not been with the other party for long, and yes, she may end up heartbroken etc, but at least it is her choice right? She has no one else to blame but herself should things go wrong. She should be old enough to handle herself and bear responsibility for her actions. Why treat her like a kid? If she were to do what is being told by others and things go wrong, who is willing to bear the responsibility? Who will bear the consequences? It will still be her. So, let her go. If this is a wrong move, let her fall and pick herself up. Every experience is a lesson learnt, so let her learn. I am also worried for my friend, but I trust her enough to let her make her own decisions. She has her reasons and I am not her, I may not think like her and she may not think like me. Likewise, she may not think like her family. I pray for her to be successful in her venture and hopefully, one day, those who objected will be able to see her real smile when she succeed. If she doesn’t, well, at least she learnt something and there will be no regrets.

So my friend, you have my support. I worry for you but I believe you will do your best to make things happen. 加油. ت

玩你的人与爱你的人

你身边那位，是玩你，还是爱你？

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玩你的人：半夜會找你打電話聊天到很晚。
愛你的人：會告訴你不要聊那麼晚。

玩你的人：他會找你出去玩，叫你放棄正事。
愛你的人：他會催你好好工作，踏踏實實。

 
玩你的人：在你生病時，會講好話關心你。
愛你的人：在你生病時，他會關心到你煩，並強迫你去看醫生。 

玩你的人：他會盡量說好話來討好你，你也會覺得很開心。
愛你的人：他所說的話，都是關心你的，但是通常像是在命令。 

玩你的人：他什麼事情都會配合你，只要你開心。
愛你的人：他會幫你辨別是非，但是你會感覺他管的太多。 

玩你的人：他說他要給你最大的快樂。
愛你的人：他只能給你保證，你跟他在一起，他是最快樂的。 

玩你的人：他在意你的生活細節，即使你做錯了什麼，他也不會指出來。 

愛你的人：他在意你的一舉一動，告訴你什麼地方錯了，什麼地方該如何做，該如何與別人交往。 

玩你的人：他不會在意你去做什麼，與什麼人交往。
愛你的人：他很在意你去做什麼，與什麼人交往。他還會告戒你不要與什麼人交往。

玩你的人：他只想要現在。  

愛你的人：他已經預見未來，該怎麼自我努力，好好給你幸福。 

玩你的人：他會說“我喜歡你！”
愛你的人：他會說“我愛你。

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如果，你愛過或者被愛過，那麼，你會感到這些話千真萬確。

Good or Bad?

People always say, be with a good person, don’t be with a bad one. How do you define ‘good’ and ‘bad’? A good person is someone who looks girl/boy-next-door, doesn’t smoke, gamble or flirt around while a person who does any of the above is considered bad? How can you be sure that a good person will stay forever good or a bad person will always be bad?

A bad person means you do not expect him/her to be good; anything good that comes out is considered a bonus and definitely appreciated. On the other hand, a good person means you will be more disappointed when he/she does something that is considered bad in your eyes. A good person does not mean he/she will not lie and a bad person does not mean he/she is always untruthful.

I always believe an extremely lousy person will have his/her good side and an extremely nice person will have his/her evil side. Someone nice does not necessarily mean he/she will be liked by everyone and someone nasty does not mean he/she will be disliked by all. Everyone has his/her good and bad side; it depends on which side you see or is willing to believe and/or accept.

Of cos, I do have people that I dislike and people that I like. However, I always believe there is the other side of them that I do not see, thus, the different opinions from different people. I do not expect the people around me to see what I see; likewise, don’t expect me to see what others see. People should always agree to disagree. Everyone is unique, be it good or bad.

Don't be judgemental and expect everyone to think like you. There are always grey areas; not everything is in black and white. 

Emotionally Swayed

Evidence that imply an unnatural relationship, an emotional affair:

→Keep in contact through all means
→Stalk each other on social media
→Leave special entries for each other
→Buy gifts for each other
→Always claim that they are not close

All the above are done in secrecy and lies

Of Co's, with the above, you may not be able to prove your partner is having a affair. What can you do if your partner refuses to admit right?

Well technically speaking, it's not an affair. Just emotionally swayed, if you must define it, with 'justifiable' lies Co's he/she doesn't want you to be unhappy.

Still, lies and more lies. How much will you tolerate?

Choice is yours. If you can live with it, if you can believe that your partner won't do it again, then go ahead and forgive. Else, think carefully Co's such people will always think that what they are doing are  not considered affairs, and lies are always justifiable. So the chance of it happening again is very high.

Did I mention you will be portrayed as unreasonable and over sensitive? So if you can accept such terms in yourself, good.

Note: Culprits of such emotional affairs are usually the so-called nice people.

Filial Piety

How much are you willing to go to show your filial piety? Ultimate compliance to their requests, be it good or bad?  Submit 90% of your salary to them every month? Always on their side even if they are in the wrong? How much is too much?

Does not listening mean unfilial? Does not meeting their standards mean unfilial? Does not doing any of the above mean unfilial? 

You are not a puppet. Giving birth to you does not mean they have control over your life. I have friends who are considered unfilial because they refuse/unable to oblige to their parents’ requests; simple requests like doing household chores, to unreasonable ones like marrying people they do not love.

I find it hard to comprehend. How can any parent define filial piety as ultimate compliance to their requests? They THINK they are doing the RIGHT thing, they THINK their decisions are the BEST for you, they THINK they know you BETTER than yourself and so, you have to follow. Mind you, these are what THEY think, not how YOU really FEEL.

Your life is yours to write and the path is yours to walk. You are the one who will bear the consequences from the decisions made in your life, not your parents. I am not saying that you should never listen to your parents, but I think there should be discretion. You have to decide for yourself what you really want in life, especially decisions that will cause major changes in your future.

Of cos, you still listen to them. Seek their advice and understand them. No parent will harm his/her child. Communication is very important. Yes, they may be stubborn (which parent aren’t?) and have their own values and principles, but they always love their children. Listen but make your own decisions.

If any parent is reading this, I hope you are not offended. I am not a parent myself, but I do understand the need to protect the loved ones, and always wanting to make the best decisions for them. It is out of good will and I am sure all parents want the best for their children. However, they are not you, they may carry your genes, but they do not have your thoughts nor heart. They have their own thoughts, their own likes and dislikes, their ambitions and goals. Listen to them, advice them but do not force them to do what you wish they will, especially when it comes to matters of heart. Forcing will only make matters worse. Give them your support and assure them that the door to home will always be open for them. You can’t protect them forever, one day, they will need to fall and learn on their own. Of cos, they may not learn immediately, but maybe one day, they will. There is only so much that you can do for your loved ones, cos you cannot be there for them 24/7. They will need to decide what they want on their own, and learn to shoulder responsibility for their actions and they can only learn that through their falls.

In a nutshell, both parents and children should learn the art of listening. Parents have been children once and children will be parents someday. So, it should not be too hard to understand each other right? Always remember, your life is yours to write and so is the everyone else. Don't attempt to write the script for someone else, let them do it on their own and let the ending unveils itself.

Filial piety is not ultimate compliance, it is understanding, faith and unconditional love. 

Decision Making

Have you ever doubt your decisions? If so, what do you do? Bite the bullet and stick to it? Seek advice and rectify it?

Why will people doubt their decisions? Is it because time changes, and people change too? Thus, what seemed the best and most logical decision may become illogical and bad? If so, whose fault should it be? Yourself or the environment?

If your decision involves other parties, what will you do then? Keep quiet? Talk to them? If people around you regret their decisions made, what will you do? What will you advise?

Are there really wrong decisions made? Or is change the only constant, thus, the different perspectives at different times?

Melancholy

Sometimes, you think back your past and wonder, if you had done it differently, would the ending be the same? If the same situation happens now, will you handle it differently?

Alot of times, we handle things the way we thought was best at the moment and this thought often depends on our maturity and age. Despite how some would argue age does not affect one's maturity, we have to admit, you only grow wiser as you age; you gain more experience as the years go by.

As such, you will handle things in a different way at different phases of your life. Things that you would had done in the past may not be the best solution now.

However, despite dealing it differently, the result may be the same. Sounds irony? That's life. This often relates to relationships among humans. I'm not only talking about boy-girl relationships, I'm also referring to friendship and more. Why so? That's because characters cannot be changed. That is what makes you different from others. There are people whom you will never be good friends with, despite how hard you try. There's also people whom you will click at first meetup. That's compatibility. There's no right or wrong, worthy or not. It's purely compatibility. Some people are never met to click.

That's the irony I'm referring to. You may have handled it differently, but the ending will be the same. People who are not compatible can never be together, be it friends or lovers. Of cos, one is more stringent when it comes to lovers, which is why some people can only be friends, not lovers. Pity but not everyone is your foe, and not everyone is your friend.

So there's no need to be too upset over loss of friendship or relationships, Co's That's life. You get upset; that's understandable, but not to the extend of wallowing. The biggest challenge in life is not to hang on, but to let go. When you have learnt to let go, you will be a happier person.  :)

Big 3 & Friends

It's been a life changing year. Or should I say, months? Things changed, for the better and worse. Physically, it's getting worse. Mentally, it's getting better.

As I reach my big 3 this year, I realised it's not as daunting as I expected it to be. I thought I would get all jittery, skeptical and dreadful about it, but I didn't. On the contrary, I am nonchalant (okay, maybe I'm only dreadful about people calling me by a different term, "a....e"). I am happy to tell people about it, nothing to be secretive about. I'm not sure if that is because I don't look like it, or I'm really embracing the fact. Either way, I'm okay with this change. :)

Mentally, I'm seeing things at a different light. I have learnt to take things in it's stride, not being stubborn over alot of things and being able to accept more than I used to. Maybe I have been through enough or rather, seen enough to know better. Maybe, I have learnt that life is too short to dwell on redundant matters. I have better things to focus on: happy stuff such as having friends. :)

I have made alot of new friends in the past year and some, I have labelled them as close friends. Of Co's, I have also realised some friendships were not strong enough against the work of time, but then again, since the friendships become distant over time, its better to end it now than later.

Recently, I bumped into someone whom I had known briefly a year ago and felt that we could click but due to some matters, we sorta lost contact. That accidental meetup was awesome as we cleared the air and realised that both were glad to be friends. I am happy that I went down that night. It was a great night that I would remember for a long time. That's friendship that will not distance due to time. Even if we were to only meet once a year. It's the thought that matters. :)

Someone told me that there will never be friends among colleagues, and I beg to differ. I have found awesome friends through work and some I know, I will always treasure and they will always cherish. Blessed maybe, I am happy now. Work sucks but with awesome friends, I can survive it (mostly).

I expect more changes to come this year, good ones. And with this android app, I believe I'll be able to pen down my journey in life more often.

I love my life. ♡

God's will?

It's funny how God show you his way, how he sets obstacles/paths to let you know that what you are doing is/isn't good for you.

If its good, you realise there's a lot of paths leading you to that goal. If it's not, you will find a lot of obstacles.

For example, you aren't supposed to go somewhere and thus, though you have found ways and means to go, and finally got to go, the place may be closed.

If you are supposed to meet a person, you may have cancelled the date which you walk aimlessly later on and suddenly, you will bump into him/her.

We often do not think much about it but if you do observe, you will realise how amazing such is. Of cos, if you only believe that fate is in your hands, what I have just mentioned is bull shit. But then again, no harm having an open heart right? :)

So is the path you are walking now meant to be?

Missing you

Missing someone is your heart's way of reminding you that you love them.

If you do, let them know. There may not always be a tomorrow. Treasure the present.

To love or be loved?

In a relationship, both should be happy. A wise man once said, to love is miserable, be loved is happiness. How true is that? We always advise our friends to be with the one who loves them, who is "good", the "better person", don't be with the "bad guy", the "arsehole".

Truth is who are we to judge? Love is blind and doesn't matter if the person is good or bad, treats you well, love you more or less. If your heart were to fall for him/her, you will fall. We always took eyes at friends who break the "better person"'s heart and choose to be with the "arsehole" but when such situation happens to us, how sure are we that we will choose the "better person" and not the "arsehole"?

No matter how bad a person is, there must be some good in him/her that attract people and vice versa. Do you follow your heart or mind? Is love emotional or logical? I'm sure you have your answer.

Two people in love, only they themselves see the truest form of each other an know best why they love each other. We can't see doesn't mean they don't exist.

So next time, before you start rolling your eyes, think about it. Are you that logical in love? If yes, are you sure you are in love?

Tired

Tired, so tired.

Tired of pretending.

Tired of entertaining.

Tired of faking my smiles.

Tired of being a venting machine.

Tired of being blamed for no reason.

Most of all, tired of not being myself.

I am not tired of life, I am tired of my life.

Easy job.. Not

A lot of people thought that my job is easy – since my workplace is a place where the public seldom patronage. All I have to do is serve them when needed and sit around, doing nothing. The only down side is probably the shift work and the need to work on weekends. They are so damn wrong.

My job scope is all rounder. I play different roles every day, from supervisor to table cleaner. I also play the contractor, laborer, packer, balloon sculptor, mail distributor, waitress, entertainer, event organiser, personal assistant, clerk, social worker,  just to name a few.

It is never the same at my workplace; every day is different roles. I definitely do not sit around and wait for time to pass. I always expect the unexpected; someone fell down, disputes, last minute assignments, etc.

Is my job interesting? At times. Is it tiring? No doubt about it.

I start work in the morning as early as 830am and end work as late as 3 or 4am. I work on weekends and sometimes, public holiday. Festive seasons are not appealing for people like us as that is when we have more work to do, with more OTs and less sleep. My job is considered service line; I serve the public. Therefore, I need to be polite at all times, even if the person is nasty to me. This is part of our job – venting machine.

I am definitely tired, and at times, the stress eats into me and I get very down. I can’t zzz or eat well; I always look tired (if you look closely) and I have (almost) no social life.

So whenever people commented that my job is easy, I always ask them to try taking over me for one month and tell me if it is easy. I get frustrated when people think that my job is a highly paid easy job, it is definitely not; nowhere near the description of “easy job”.

My colleagues face the same issue too and sometimes, they are so pissed with such comments, they left the job. They felt unappreciated as even people who have seen us working may sometimes comment the same thing, or worse, saying that we are paid staff, thus, it is justifiable for us to work long and irregular hours, to get scolding for no reason and to lose our personal time.

It is not justifiable; no job is worth the effort and time unless you are willing to do so, willing to go the extra mile to ensure your job is done properly. We can get the same pay and not do much; we can sit around and procrastinate. We did not. This is not because we are highly paid (which we are not), it is because we are responsible people who ensures that our work is done on time, properly and do our best at all times. All we need is appreciation, which is rare.

It is human nature to take things for granted. That is the downside of this job. We are often not being appreciated for what we have done, and sometimes, it takes a toll on some of the staff and they resign. As much as it is human nature to take things for granted, it is also human nature to crave for appreciation. Job satisfaction is often not monetary; it cannot be measured by the amount of pay you get. A simple thank you can make a person’s day. How often do we hear that?

  So next time, if you are being served by a nice person, say thank you. It may keep a person in the job for another year. 

Leave or stay

Have been in a dilemma for the past month or more.. Ain't sure on the path that I should take.. People around me have been giving me different advices and points of view..

Friends and family have noticed my increasing unhappiness and tiredness, they are worried about me. I wish I could make a decisive choice without considering so much, but I can't. I guess I am worried about making the wrong choice..

Then a friend said this to me, "At the end of the day you live for yourself. No point being miserable so other people can be happy. Do what makes you happy."

I thought about it, and she seemed to sound logical, why should I keep living for others? Especially when they do not appreciate me? For my character, I have not expected myself to tolerate such treatment for years, but I did. I guess I have been trained well, which is both good and bad. How long more can I tolerate before I break down? I do not want a nasty ending.

Perhaps, it is time to move on, and find my old self before she is lost forever.

God, please give me strength.

累了

真的好累。

TG National Day

August has been a busy month with lots of major events going on, with the most major being the National Day Dinner Celebration.

Having 3 major events within 4 days was no joke. It was a month of long working hours, lots of meetings, site recees, frustration and nervousness. Nevertheless, it was full of fun and I definitely learnt a lot. ツ

For the first time in my life, I performed on stage with more than 2,000 audience. It was a scary yet exciting experience. I was arranged to partner with my big boss and my heart almost stopped. Despite being talkative and friendly, it was totally different when you have to perform on stage with huge crowd and partnering with your big boss. I felt like a kid having to meet the principal. Well, on the positive side, at least my big boss knows me now! haha

Decorating of the place

Final Rehearsal for the performance *nervous*

 

My big boss

The little angels on stage =)

Our trainer for our performance

The little angels ♥  

Random Pic

Group photo with the staff 

Success Event!

Yam Seng! :D

Just as we were busy with National Day events, it was the time of the year: 7th Month (Hungry Ghost Month). I was warned beforehand that I have to attend many 7th month dinners and I have to eat a lot of Kong Ba Baos (Chinese Braised Pork Buns). I did not take much notice of it as I was thinking, why should I be worried? Kong Ba Baos are nice and well, they are free dinners, people would not be afraid of free dinners, would they?

I was sooooooo wrong. By the second dinner, I dreaded seeing the food. Though free, they come in large portions and the food are almost the same for every dinner. It did not help that I was attending 3 dinners for 3 consecutive days and Kong Ba Bao is one of the standard dishes for the dinners.

It was definitely fun watching the residents bid for the items and the food are nice. However, one can get sick of good food if they are served to you too often, and in my case, for 3 consecutive days. =.=

When I am writing this post, I have been to at least 7-8 dinners and more to come. Always the same few dishes.

First few dishes

The fish is always the same. =.=

the kong ba baos!!!! I had to eat two! 

Of cos, the dishes are usually nice and sometimes, it is really exciting watching the residents bidding for the items. Some items can go up to more than $10,000!

2 bottles of Macallan for $288!

Martell is one of the most popular items for 7th month bidding and for some places, one bottle of Martell can go up to $1,000!

I do not understand Hokkien, thus, it gets quite boring for me. Well, still, it is an interesting experience for me.

Alright, off to the next dinner! :)

Adidas Jeremy Scott

Finally, my shoes arrived! Adidas Jeremy Scott's wings series! Love it to the max!

When I first saw the shoes online, I was totally sold! I love wings (perhaps due to my name) and I definitely love unique stuff! This pair of shoes have both! It is not expensive either, only $100++.. I couldn't find it in Singapore and bought it online  instead. There was hiccups during the delivery process but overall, I still love it!

Originally, I saw this design, white in colour. The model was wearing them and it looks really cool!

However, when I went in and saw the other designs, I find the other wing design nicer. The above design has  something that I did not like: the wings are stuck behind, it doesn't "fly". =(

Later on, I saw that there are gold colour for the shoes! Silver is ugly and white is too common, not to mention luminous is  useless to me unless I am a guy who wishes to impress the girls at a party. So it is pretty obvious what my choice is! :D

See the wings? How can anyone NOT love it? :D

How it looks when you wear them

The kids were impressed with the wings and thought I could fly in them! The innocence of  kids are so lovable! :D

Now I am looking at buying another pair of design, though I am having reservations with the seller. *shrugs* Oh well, we shall see how it goes.

Oh! They even have bears and/or tails designs! I particularly love this design!

Cool isn't it? I'm into leopard prints  recently :P

The tails are so damn  cute!

They have bear design too but seems too much for me.

Time to save up! :D

Marriage for love?

Been hearing quite a number of couples getting married after being together for 6 months (and knowing each other less than a year).. All these news were sudden too, like 3 months before the wedding? And nope, not shotgun, which will be more understandable. It makes me wonder, did they decided to get hitched coa they are madly in love or is it the in thing now, for people our age?

They don't know each other well, the relationships aren't stable (arguing every 3 days and breakup every week or so), there's no baby on the way. Thus, why the SUDDEN hurry?

I asked around and got collated the following reasons:

1. Managed to get a HDB unit which requires them to get married within the next three to six months (the hurry for flat? Too good to let go)
2. Age is catching up for the female/male, the NEED to get married is getting overwhelming
3. Friends around are getting married and the females felt left out when the other couples who were probably together for much shorter period are getting married

The above are the main reasons and none of it is about love. It makes me sad thinking that people only get married for all reasons except the love for each other. What do the vows mean then? If the marriage isn't due to deep love for each other and the want for being with each other for the rest of their lives? Shouldn't this be the main reason?

It doesn't matter if you need to apply for flat before proposal, nor the planning before everything is confirmed as long as the reason behind all these is the love for each other.

I don't mean that love should be measured by time but the sudden surge of getting married within 6 months or a year of knowing each other (yes, knowing each other from strangers to friends to lovers) is too far stretched. How can you love someone when the rs is full of problems? 因不瞭解而在一起，因瞭解而分開嗎？

I wouldn't want to do so. Marriage is for life, it should be taken seriously. Don't get married due to impulse, it's unfair to the other party and yourself. Don't hurt another person for your mistake.

For those who find this similar, think it over carefully. Are you willing to see the person for the next 50years? Can you stand the bad habits he/she has for the next 50years? If you can't, then don't go to the next step.

Be responsible my friends. Think.