when i was younger, i yearned to be part of a group.. big group.. wanted to be invited to activities etc..

but as i grow older.. i'd rather go out individually with the people i called friends than to waste my time faking my smiles at people i didn't like in a group..

don't get me wrong.. i don't despise or dislike going out in a group.. but i wont crave for it.. neither would i be affected if i am not being invited..



in a big group of friends, let's say 10-20, can you really say that this is a group of friends who are true to one another? that all are really good friends and such?

most prob not..



in a group of less than 5, yea.. there will be true or real deep bond.. but more than that? its hard..

in a big group like this, there's bound to be small cliques.. and friction and well.. displeasure..

its only a matter of time where a group like this will crack and split into small groups.. jus like Soviet Union (USSR)..



Up till now.. i have never seen a group of friends (more than 5 "members") remain the same group..

esp friends since young.. pri? sec? jc?

they usually split up due to more n more conflicts.. seeing true colors of one another etc..

smart ones keep quiet and fade away..

not-so-smart ones will stay in there, trying to keep everything together.. not accepting that things aren't the same anymore..

(just like in a relationship yea?)



i think its better that you are remembered as an individual and they meet up with you separately than to be remembered as a group member to be asked along for group outings only.. where's there only fun..


what do you think?